Have you ever seen someone that you think "Man, that person is really grouchy" or "Wow, that person is always happy"? Or maybe you see a trend that people call you "grouchy" even if it is joking? A big difference in people's opinion about you is how often you smile. It seems like a weird, far-fetched fact, but it actually works!
I used to never smile, because there were too many things not to smile about. If the weather sucked, or I got a bad grade on a test that day, or if I was late to class, or I had a lot of homework, those would all be excuses not to smile. But then someone told me "Those things just don't care" and at first I thought that it was just a weird old piece of Zen philosophy, and disregarded it. But then one day, I was walking to class and realized what it really meant.
What that means that the test doesn't care or your homework doesn't care is that no matter what, if you're smiling or frowning, or not doing any facial expression, the homework is still the same. The test is still the same. You're still late to class. But the people around you do care. If they see you smiling even through tough times they'll think "Wow, that person is really resilient", and maybe they'll try smiling. And before you know it, the people around you will be happier and so will you.
So now that you've learned how smiling is good for you, you get to learn how to smile. All over again. I see in a lot of people that they smile and its just too forced. Or it just looks not right. So heres how to make a smile that's really genuine and real.
So smile right now! Smile really big! Okay now that you're smiling (and keep smiling while you're reading this) make sure that your mouth is relaxed and not tense. Does it feel like your cheeks are being pulled up? Your mouth should be relaxed and your cheeks should feel relaxed as if they are standing on your smile.
Try smiling while talking about any happy or light-hearted topic. If you smile during sad conversations, make sure that you do it while you say something optimistic, but don't ever smile too much while someone is talking about something bad, it can really scare someone away.
So go out there. Smile. Be happy. And try something new.
2 comments:
Wow, I really like your new style of blogging. Wonderfully written and powerful. Are you suddenly interested in motivational speaking or are you just feeling like helping out others though your blog?
@Katie,
Thank you for the comment ^_^
Its a combination of a lot of things that really got me into it again with a different style. Ever since I've been vegetarian, it really has helped me open up my views for other things and ideas. I also realized that I could be doing a lot by helping out people. I'm not really interested in motivational speaking outside of the internet though.
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